Your Network is your Net Worth (Energetically)
If you’ve read some of my other blog entries, you’ll know that I often struggle with wanting to do everything—all at once, all the time. I’m heavily influenced by my environment and the people in it, but in hindsight, this hasn’t always been a good thing. When I first moved to Bali, I fell into the trap of how accessible the party scene was, especially among the young travellers. I’d constantly meet people who, don’t get me wrong, were great in their own way—but at that moment in their lives, their biggest goal was to see how many vodka joss shots (iykyk) they could down in one go. This didn’t exactly align with my aspirations. Over time, I began noticing a shift in my ability to prioritise the things that mattered—things that would drive me closer to my goals, big or small. That realisation became the clearest indicator that my environment needed to change.
I read somewhere that you shouldn’t take advice from someone who’s not in a position you want to be in in life and equally if someone was to refer to you as similar or exactly like your partner or a friend etc then would you be pleased or offended? This was enough food for thought for me to acknowledge and analyse the spaces I put myself into. The people you surround yourself with have a profound impact on your energy, mindset, and even the trajectory of your life. They’re either supporting your growth or subtly holding you back.
In life, advice is everywhere—unsolicited tips about how to handle relationships, career moves, health decisions, and even whether grapes belong in your diet. But here’s the thing: not all advice is created equal, and not all advice-givers are worth listening to. The truth is, the person offering advice should ideally embody the outcomes you’re striving for. Why take financial advice from someone who struggles to manage their money? Or relationship advice from someone stuck in toxic cycles? This doesn’t mean people need to be perfect to offer insights, but their lived experience matters.
When it comes to advice, I always ask myself:
Is this person living a life or holding a mindset I aspire to?
Do they have expertise or personal experience in this area?
Are their values aligned with mine?
For example, consider someone who tells you to quit your passion project because "it’s not realistic." Are they speaking from a place of wisdom or fear? Often, advice says more about the person giving it than about what’s actually best for you.
Similarly, your network reflects your energetic net worth. The people closest to you shape your mindset and either amplify or dampen your ability to grow. If you surround yourself with complainers or cynics, their energy can cloud your own. But when you align with driven, optimistic individuals, their belief in what’s possible becomes contagious. Every interaction is an exchange of energy. Being around people who uplift you inspires confidence, growth, and clarity. On the other hand, spending time with those stuck in negativity can leave you drained and distracted.
Ask yourself: Do the people in my life energise me or weigh me down?
Are they ahead of where you want to be, offering valuable insights?
Do they inspire you with their mindset, resilience, or outcomes?
Are they aligned with your vision and values?
I’m not saying you should be harshly cutting people out of your life. Instead, be intentional about who gets access to your energy. Seek out mentors, collaborators, and friends who help you grow —and be that person for others, too. Your network is a reflection of your goals and dreams. Nurture relationships that align with your aspirations, and set boundaries with those who don’t. Remember, you’re not just the average of the five people you spend the most time with—you’re also the sum of the energy you allow into your life.
Trust your intuition, choose your connections wisely, and watch as your network helps you manifest a life that truly inspires you.
